What Are Values?:

Values (from the Latin valere, to be strong, to be of worth) have been defined in literature, religion, and philosophy to include the widest possible range from eternal ideas to behavioral actions. They are popularly defined as: “The acts, customs, institutions, etc. regarded in a particular (especially favourable) way by a people, an ethnic group, etc.” In their purest form, however, values originate and reside at a very deep level in one’s soul (psyche) and are, therefore, mystical. In this focused context, values can be defined as: “The guidelines and beliefs a person uses when confronted with a situation in which a choice is made.” It is one’s behavior that decodes deeper values. Behavior is the only window through which we can judge another person’s values—or our own.

The Sources of Values:

There is a general consensus that a person gains his values through just a few basic avenues: inculcation, modeling, self-analysis of real-life experiences, and values clarification.

Inculcation: This is the formal or informal teaching by parents, teachers, family members and individuals in our social and religious world during the early formative years of our lives.

Modeling: This is the process by which one selects, on a conscious or subconscious level, important or powerful people in our lives, mentors or “tormentors” (such as bosses, partners, teachers and colleagues) who may serve as role models for our lives and for our values.

Self-analysis of real-life experiences: Major short-term, real-life experiences may cause a person to analyze the situation and formulate, test, and even change his values. Long-term cumulative experiences such as marriage, child rearing, “empty nest” syndrome, or chronic health problems may be included in a self-evaluation process.

Values clarification: This is a concept fostered by the “humanist movement” in the mid-twentieth century. It approaches the study of values through formal “self- and group-analysis,” along with the use of rational thinking and emotional awareness to examine one’s behavioral patterns and underlying values.

As “…without ongoing, explicit agreement about values, you lose the elasticity that lets relationships snap back after disagreements about money and methodologies.  It is extremely easy to believe that once you agree on values, its a done deal.  It’s not.  Values are never over….” (Principle 4: Value Failures, p.85, ‘Its not Business its Personal’  by Ronna Lictenberg)

What Do You Value?:

Personal values are the center of your universe. Your behavior, every thought you have, every decision you make, every word you utter, every relationship you have with others—everything you do is driven by your values.  For which you can address your:

Core Values: review the seven core values and rate them in order of importance to you. Then, detail why they are important and how you integrate them into your life.

Internal Values: rate your six most common personal internal values. Indicate why they are important and how you integrate them into your life.

External Values: you can again rate values in order of importance, following with why they are important and how they are integrated into your life.

See Weblink Blog Post: Rethinking the Core Human Needs.


My values are the ideas that give support to what I feel is vital to creating the life I want to live.  My values direct my life and give it quality and meaning. As this above pyramid of my values gives me a graphical representation of how my values are ranked against themselves and flows between each other, that is with my most important values both assigned at the top and bottom of the pyramid; order and worship, as they are the foundation upon which all my other values are based and is linked to ones spiritual gifts. And my own personal ‘Spiritual Gifts’ they are seven in total: Faith, Discerning of Spirits, Preaching, Pastor, Word of Knowledge, and Sense-Knowledge: ‘Tabula rasa’ understanding and perception, plus also (Effective) Witnessing. Which are all born within me from the Holy Spirit. All in all, its the ‘Ministry of Encouragement’ that is my calling.    (Mavarine Du-Marie) 

And the reason I believe in religion is explained better by this comment: “….sometimes you have to experience it to understand it, Faith, Grief and Life are a few examples that come to mind. I really don’t believe in living my life according to “Chance” or “Possible Accidents” which is why I don’t believe in Evolution and do believe in God. – Richard, Gracay, France, 08/3/2011 16:09…” (source: Reader Comment section in ‘BBC’s face of religion is a self-proclaimed atheist who claims God had a wife and Eve suffered from sexism‘) and his reply to this article is also my religious standpoint too, as it is about how one lives one’s life, science is about how life came to be which is a totally different premise.

For I like to state that as Satan is my Confiteor (Holy Bible, Numbers, 22:34 and also in Romans 13:1-5) and is there to hear my thinking before I act or have acted (hence the Mind = Satan is known as the Dark), and God witnessing with his all seeing eye externally (hence Visual = God known as the Light) to ensure there is a follow-through from those decisions, which is all well and good, but there is also such a thing in existence as ‘Reading One’s Own Mind‘ too.

“Balaam said to the Angel of the Lord, “I have sinned.
I did not realize you were standing in the road to oppose me.
Now if you are displeased, I will go back.” (Holy Bible, Numbers 22:34)

“Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer. Therefore one must be in subjection, not only to avoid God’s wrath but also for the sake of conscience.”  (Holy Bible, Romans 13:1-5)

Weblink to my Facebook page with updates on my religious Spiritual Mapping and the Holy Rollers whom I follow.

“When what you do is in congruity with what you believe,
and what you believe is the highest of truths,
you achieve the most gratifying form of personal productivity
and experience the most satisfying form of self-esteem.”
(by Charles R. Hobbs)



Sometimes priorities shift as we’ve had to juggle tasks. On balance, though, we need to ensure our priorities are consistent with our personal values and goals. Doing this requires a periodic review, and a weekly planning session is ideal for this. 

As its worth remembering that ‘Time is Fair’. Everyone has 24 hours a day to use or abuse, no more no less. No matter the status in life or from what background a person originates from, everyone has the same amount of hours in a day. The difference is how a person chooses to spends these hours or days. Perhaps this is the reason why some people are considered miracle workers while others never get anything done: priorities are set.

My Spiritual Map
Spiritual Mapping gathers the strategic information necessary
for effective intercessory ‘smart prayer’ deployment.

As my specific goal of worship that is aligned with my priorities and values has been realised, in that I now attend after some research on local churches in my residential area, the Worshiping services at two of my local churches:

St. John the Divine Church

Since its foundation in 1871, St John the Divine has been affiliated with the Anglican High Church. The High Anglican style of worship is reflected in the design and decoration of the church, with the presence of devotional statues, icons, sanctuary lamps and the Reserved sacrament. And the High Church traditions continues today, and services in this church are generally in the Anglo-Catholic style, with an emphasis on sacraments, liturgy and ceremony. And specifically, St John the Divine as a place of worship is a ‘Resurrection’ church, in that it gives Hope to the Parish and congregation members. 

Lambeth Mission and St Mary’s Church

They are a united congregation of Anglicans, Methodist (and others) with a proud history and the Methodists have served this area for around 200 years, in exciting and innovative ways and in this present day.

The Friars – Aylesford

And the picture on the right is also of me praying at the Friars in Aylesford, Kent on the 19th June 2011 at the outdoor Shrine Chapel, praying to Our Lady. Inside the Chapel, I light a blue candle, and made a religious Petition which was presented to Shrine of Our Lady and St. Simon Stock as a pilgrimage.


People tend to forget about the purpose after some time. Straying from their path, they decide to invest or create something that has nothing to do with their personal values or goals. That’s when a mission statement comes in. The goal of a mission statement is to set a standard of what it is that your trying to accomplish and how. It directs you back to the proper course if you ever stray from it. So I thought I’d share mine below:

“My mission is to fulfill my potential in all that I take on and do which aligns to my core values and my general profile, through different phases of my life as they occur and change as I progress, as this statement remains my focus in developing the quality of my life as to what I’d like to achieve in spirit and growth as an individual and aspire to become enhanced as a person.” (Mavarine Du-Marie)


“We work to become and not to acquire.”
(by Elbert Hubbard)



If situations come up that challenge or threaten to disrupt my time, I will ask myself these questions that will measure the demand against my predetermined priorities:

  • How does this new project, request, event or relationship fit in with my priorities?
  • Is it appropriate, worth the time, energy, or effort for me to get involved with this?
  • What impact will diverting my time to this have on accomplishing other tasks or meeting other deadlines?

Then make a decision about the requests for involvement, based on my own values and priorities from my present situation.  As the more often I’m able to weigh up those requests against my values and priorities that I’ve already made space and time for to keep busy in my life before I commit to anything new, then the less often I’ll find my day disrupted by activities that are unimportant to me, and leave me feeling rushed and disorganised.  As asking the above question of myself means that I’m taking control, rather than the demands and activities taking control of me.

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’
Start where you stand,
and work with whatever tools you may
have at your command,
and better tools will be found as you go along.”
(by Napoleon Hill)



I chose one of these three prayers at the start of the day;

  1. Dearest God,
    I name before you my fears,
    I offer you my doubts
    And ask for healing
    And mystery
    And another new beginning. Amen.
  2. Lord, at the start of this new day,
    Help us to find time to be still and listen;
    Help us to see what you are asking us to do,
    Help us to go forward hand in hand with you,
    Knowing that we can trust you and lean on you. Amen.
  3. Dear Lord,
    Who wakes me to a new day,
    Give me the wisdom to use it,
    Give me clarity of vision,
    Care in all I do,
    And love for everyone I meet,
    As you love me.
    In your name. Amen.

And this prayer I say at the end of the day each night;

Preserve us with your grace, O God, our whole journey through,
That we may live by faith, die in your favour, rest in your peace,
Rise in your power and reign in your glory, in the Joy of Christ,
And in fellowship of the Holy Spirit, forever. Amen.


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