I’m a UK size 7 in length and a standard E fit in width, and genetically my shoe size hasn’t changed over the years.

But depending on shoe design, sometimes I wear a UK size 8 because I can’t get a UK size 7½ which would allow extra comfort for winkle picker shoes (see definition below), even though size 7 is an exact fit for my feet.  And yet I still find it difficult to get shoes that are feminine in shoe size UK 7, even for a E fit width unfortunately; as most shoe shops only stock from and between sizes UK 4, 5 and 6 shoes and any other width fit besides an E can’t fair any better.

In addition, I don’t believe in shoe-horning myself into a shoe size smaller, just for a fashion fetish S&M act out in public, nor even privately, to thrill the designer of the shoe, or of some people thinking mistakenly for a female that it correlates to a thin labia minora and tight, as in small, vagina (the length and width of the shoe opening) or her cliortis size (the toes of a shoe design) of a female’s pubic area, even be they virginal or menopausal, therefore, the longer length or bigger width of her feet doesn’t make her masculine/ugly (as in looking the same length as a penis rather than the look of a cliortis) because of her foot size, it comes to down to the design ‘style’ of the shoe.

That is, sexually a man’s penis (the length of the shoe) or testicle size (the ankle/back width part of the shoe) doesn’t mythically correspond to his shoe size neither, whether the penis is erect or at rest, or his testicle is loose or tightly packed, doesn’t make him effeminate, due to the reduced length in feet size, and regardless whether he learnt to tie his shoe laces or wears the slip-on type of shoe (we won’t mention the velcro bands). Nope. It just ain’t so for either gender, as its the performance that counts!! 

As anyone with a love of shoes already knows, this ‘performance’ is paramount to comfort and the display of well-being; the unison between feet and shoes as a given fact — oh — on both counts.  For a well made shoe that a woman walks well in, can make her feel an ecstasy (the ‘turn on’ attraction as a masturbation technique), which is absolutely regardless of her shoe size dimension, as its one of the erogenous zones on a female’s body in sensuality and the reason women generally take care of their feet (also see video tutorials below).  Because a ladies shoe brings out this femininity, no matter the type of heel height which is on the shoe, as long as, it feels and fits well for the occasion it is worn, certainly brings a smile to my face!

And that’s why a woman has a thing for her shoes and not so much with her handbag.

And foot-wise I was graced with a natural high in-step to my feet, meaning I couldn’t have been a ballerina as they are more flat footed, so I believe, not that I wanted to be one anyways, because I was more interested in the femininity depicted in movie films of what the females were wearing, as I loved, loved the shoes too. And as I’ve always naturally walked on the balls of my feet without effort at home, got teased alot about having ‘angel’s feet’ when bare-footed for walking that way, that is my heels stayed off the ground, therefore the decision was made that high heels was what I’d wear in public, as I’ll explain further below the reasons for that decision. Its very important to know what type of feet one has to determine the heel height and style of shoes one can wear comfortably.

As for me wearing high heeled shoes, they were always way more comfortable than flat shoes, which after awhile, any flat shoe would give me problems at a young age, and still does, particularly if worn all day and everyday. I can only describe the gait in flat shoes as a ‘sulky child walk’ as the balls of my feet would hit the ground first to the sound of a thump on the paving slab all the way down the road! Plus I was always forever falling over in flat shoes much to the exasperation of everyone!!

However, the minimum that I’d wear was a ½ an inch or a 1 inch height, which is the kitten heel type of shoe for a stylish look, with trousers only, but I’d still not wear this type of kitten heel for walking long distances or else I’d be in pain. Therefore today, completely flat shoes are strictly reserved for driving, tricycling, gardening and other such activities that requires practicality.

Thus, for attending primary school my obligatory black shoes were of 2½ inchesMavarine aged 12 in height with a chunky heel, although I actually started wearing heels with height in the 1970’s when platform shoes were all the rage, my first pair was of 3 inches, and I was aged nine (see picture aside on the right) and could only wear them at the weekends, and this was due to the primary school uniform regulation which everyone had to follow of the customary black shoes being worn.

And, as my platforms shoes were the colour of tan and dark brown with a very discreet geometric patterning all over them, the only opportunity was to wear my platform high wedged heels was to Sunday School, which I attended for religious education at the local Salvation Army church, which took place on, of course, a Sunday. And all is correct about my Salvation Army regulation uniform for girls except the shoes!  I think the wedge platforms were about 3 inches in height at the time. Lovely.

And yes, I could walk in them very confidently down the pavement street, as I did every Sunday back then, for I had sensibly practiced for weeks. The program I set myself in training was as follows:

  • Sitting down in the high heel shoes and getting up from the sofa in them at home, and you may well ask: “how do you rise up from a sofa in high heels gracefully? That’s so my skirt doesn’t ride up and my knickers being on show, and for me to stop doing a seated can-can dance with my legs thinking it would help me rise up, please advise.”

    The method is to only sit towards the edge of any sofa, some women in high heels wearing skirts/dresses sit in a sideways position too, but still on the edge of a sofa, depends which technique one prefers, but always with an upright back, posture is still everything, then you’ll find you stand up with ease.

  •  And then I’d practiced walking up and down the length of the passage hallway in a straight line.

  • I then practiced going up and down the staircase steps. Always walking slowly down them, never rushed. First coming down in a sideways step, an ideal method for going down narrow stairs and wearing wedge type shoes, then eventually, with stiletto high heels coming down with the full tread step.

  • However, if the steps are wide, going up is a full tread step, but if the stairs are narrow going up, then the method is half a tread step, that is, using the sole of your feet in high heels, but one has to be careful, as its best to hold on to railings or be nearest a wall, for half a tread step could make you off balance. 

  • Plus I practiced walking my walk, turns and pose, to the very same film clip with Marilyn Monroe, which is shown on page two of the ‘DuCorpo: Learning a Feminine Walk’ in heels video feature, I was very mature about it all.

Then naturally, I graduated to the stiletto high heels, which I wore at the same heel height of 3 inch heels, and this was for the duration of Secondary School, but still abiding to the regulation of being black in colour of course, but I found even then, I had so many different styles to choose from, as long as they were black!

And just before I left further education college, to be precise Westminister College in Battersea SW11, where I had trained as a secretary, (plus the famous Catering faculty was situated in the same building back then), we were all duly informed as trainee secretaries on how we should present ourselves in the office as part of the course, so when I started employment as a qualified secretary, of course the stiletto high heels were still worn, however, the colours I chose were appropriate to the corporate world, but still at the most 3 inch heels, in the colour of black and navy mostly, and even red stiletto shoes were worn when I used to work in the respective publishing and the public relations industries.

And to save on the cost of shoe repairs, I would wear flat shoes into work or going to a job interview, for after arriving twenty minutes beforehand, as the routine for composure was that I would then head straight for the ladies toilet to first freshen up my make-up and hair.

Then secondly, in the ladies toilet, I’d checked my outfit over once more, before I’d change into my stiletto heels, so therefore my shoes always appeared clean and well kept as the rest of me. And I still do that routine when arriving and leaving a social function, as the same for when I was working. I love my shoes.

As I’m the type of woman who’ll never run for a bus, even in flat shoes, thats why there’s the phrase ‘fashionably late’ for describing a female who likes to ‘arrive’ at a place composed, it was appreciated although not a habit as being on time was, as not to simply ‘turn up flushed like a hapless youth of a female on menopause’, endearing it is not, as the image one portrayed to others in an office environment was important to those who trusted in your ability, that is as to appear calm, collected, and composed in your appearance at all times, as to facilitate keeping the confidence of others who depended on you, thereby encasing professionalism.

I would also save the bolder colours of shoes, for either the season and/or depending on what I was doing that weekend, such as white high heel shoes and sandals suited my skin colouring for summer, and so did tan shoes, but when going out at the evening to nightclubs then it was sandals in grey, golds, reds, and sometimes two tones depending on what I was wearing at the time, I was very particular about my appearance, then and now. 

Although today, I do have a range of shoes of various heights, because it still depends on what I’d be doing, and how long I’d have to wear the shoes/sandals for, the weather, the environment such as a nightclub, sitting in a restaurant, going to a meeting etc., and of course, the type of clothes I’d be wearing for the occasion.

For example, I’d wear a pair of shoe-boots with a long straight skirt, for which the hem-line must end where the shoe-boots begins, with a minimum 1½ inches of space between them, as the gap is to show a hint of skin flesh for the legs.  Its a style very reminiscent of the 1920’s fashion mixed with an Edwardian females silhouette waist to hip dimension from their historical day-wear collection, that being specifically the 1915-1920 periods of attire. As wearing that kind of combination in an outfit, even in the 21st century of a long straight skirt and shoe-boot, would still elongate the height of a female, thus giving a very classy touch to a modern styled shoe-boot, I believe.

And for pointed toe stiletto shoes (sometimes called winkle pickers) as I always made the mistake of buying my exact shoe size for these type of shoes, I then found my toes got squashed painfully after a few hours, so didn’t wear them often or for long periods of time. Until I was advised by a shop assistant when purchasing a lovely dusky pink/cream pair of 4 inch high heel winkle pickers (with clutch bag to match) which I couldn’t resist, was to buy these type of shoes always by one size up. As she said that you don’t need to fill out the winkle pickers to be able to walk in them, as the space left at the tip is just an ornamental feature, and it turned out she was right, as neither did it fall off as might have been feared. And winkle pickers high heels are best worn with trousers and the boot type winkle pickers with skirts, as that ornamental feature is what is then noticed, as she also said that winkle pickers make small and medium sized feet look longer than they actually are and that is what winkle picker shoes were designed to do for the wearer with the right outfit.

Furthermore, at the most in shoe height heels, I have ever worn and felt very comfortable in wearing and walking around in to events, even today with my OA health condition, is a 4½ high heels shoes, and as a self-imposed rule, I personally wouldn’t go beyond this height in shoes or sandals. From experience I did try a 5½ inch heel, but as I walked down the high street, I had a sudden urge that I’d be flat on my face at any second, even with a very snail paced walk, not a good feeling, I then concluded that anything over 5 inches were a stand-still and pose shoe for a photo session or bedroom shoes.

Mavarine aged 18I’d started to wear 4½ inch heeled stiletto shoes when I was eighteen years old, (see picture aside on the right and yes I wore that outfit of a short skirt outside during the day to visit friends with a nice big ladies bag), and for a long time those high heeled shoes were my very favourite pair, due to the black and white colour with wave edging around the rim as a decorative feature that you can see in the picture quite clearly, and I wore them at weekends during the day, to visit friends and general clothes shopping in the centre of town for which the 4½ inches is pictured on the right, were for me the perfect high heel shoes for such an occasion.

Also I preferred to wear a heel that would be the test model for any type of clothing I would purchase, as to give the correct length for both trousers, dresses and skirts or suits that I’d be wearing, basically they’d be the bench-mark shoes that I judged my appearance on for a confident feminine walk. 

Also another advice would be, if you are catching a public transport bus to your destination, avoid climbing the stairs to the top upper deck, as the bus driver isn’t going to hang around until your seated upstairs, he’ll start driving as soon as you’re climbing up the stairs very unsteadily. As this is because the ascending stairs on buses aren’t made for women in their high heels, nor when wearing short skirts or dresses, as the person following up behind you may not want to see your knickers. Stay on the lower deck, where you can exit gracefully from the bus.

This is from my experience, as I was wearing a short dress for spring, which felt like a summer day, down stairs on the lower deck of the bus was packed with people and no seats available. I looked up to see if I could go to the upper deck, but I decided against it, due to the transport department having installed clear glass to the side panel also, thus it wasn’t feasible for me that day, so I was prepared to stand on the lower deck for the entire journey in high heel shoes. Because if I had ascended the stairs, the people sitting down, as well as, those coming up behind me would’ve got a nice view of my butty. 

However, a lovely guy actually seeing my dilemma, gave up his seat for me to have instead, and I thanked him and smiled at him for such a gentlemanly gesture.  Act like a lady and you’ll still be treated like one, no matter what you’re wearing. 

And I would also advise when standing at a traffic light waiting to cross a main road, rather than stand on the sensory paving slab placed there for a blind person, which will cause discomfort for a woman in high heels, move further back; off from the sensory paving or stand to the side to where there is smooth paving slabs instead, it will save your shoe heel or trying a balancing act which could twist your ankle. Always take care of your feet.


Weblink Info: Fitting Advice for Boots, How to Choose The Right Size Fitting For Boots, and a Measuring Form To Record and Print Out Size.

Websites and articles: Our Guide To How To Find Your Ideal Heel, Shoe Size Conversion Chart & Heel Height Conversion TableShoe Size Fitting MeasurementsHow To Measure Your Feet WidthHow to Measure For Your Shoe Size and Style Guide to Calves.



Some further advice on walking around in public wearing high heels video feature followed by a high heel shoe collection and the shoe addictz who are the connoisseurs of the well-heeled. And weblink information on How to Descend a Staircase Gracefully and How to walk down a staircase in high heel shoes webpage articles.

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